What do you give other people that act as expressions of your identity? These could be things you do, ways you speak, gifts you give, activities you participate in, what you wear, your attitude towards life…
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For me my behavior changes depending on the people I'm with. This is not a double standard or anything of the kind. I still think the same and express the same thoughts. The difference is in the way I express them. For example, I change my vocabulary. Also, I can change the intensity of my emotions and the places I suggest we go. I think that people are too different to talk to all of them in the same way.
ReplyDeleteI can never actually express my entire identity in front of other people(it's not like I'm really trying :D ). Since I'm in a part of my life ,when I'm still exploring my future identity by making expeiments with my self(like changing why of acting,how I look, etc.), how am I suppose to show it in any way to the others? I guess, it is not possible, and that's the reason most of the time people can't stereotype me, can't define clearly my identity ,and they get confused. ( and I like making them confused ;D )
ReplyDeleteHave you ever heard the expression "You lack the first seven years". I don't know how it sounds in English, but in Bulgarian it is talking about the first seven years of a person's life when he/she get to know with the world around him/her. In these seven years the peson forms his personality. This becomes the basis for his future development. In most cases, it is what your parents teach you that you believe in through the rest in your life. They give you the the basic rules which you should follow-how to act and talk with people, etc. But it is entirely depending on you if you decide to follow these rules. For this contibuted the society, environment, etc. But it still depends on your own sense of good and bad which you had learned through the forst seven years of you life. :)
ReplyDeleteIva Dikova, ACS
Most of the people who haven't known me for too long, would say I'm a rather positive/happy/noisy person. However, they sometimes get surprised when they find out that I might feel other emotions as well. When meeting new people, I get excited, enthusiastic, and energetic (the three magic "e" words :D), and this is the mood I want to be associated with. However, I'm likely to have extreme feelings, both positive and negative. I'm would laugh at things that aren't funny till I fall on the gound, but I would also cry my eyes out over stuff that's not worth the tears. Sometimes people get scared of my mood swings and explosive reactions, but I like it that way - I make my life more colorful and live it to the fullest :)
ReplyDeleteMila Daskalova, ACS
The first hint to our identity is found in the clothes we wear and our language. However, the way we express ourselves goes futher than the obvious "first look". I recently noticed that I have three or four different walks, depending on the people I'm with. Don't get me wrong. I don't lose my own opinion to impress people. I am just being honest about the way we are all taught to live in a society where we are supposed to present ourselves in the best way possible. Little movements also give away a lot about us, and you don't need to be a psychologist to understand them. All the details about ourselves add up to what we show to others as "us", influencing their opinion about us.
ReplyDeleteThe first hint to our identity is found in the clothes we wear and our language. However, the way we express ourselves goes futher than the obvious "first look". I recently noticed that I have three or four different walks, depending on the people I'm with. Don't get me wrong. I don't lose my own opinion to impress people. I am just being honest about the way we are all taught to live in a society where we are supposed to present ourselves in the best way possible. Little movements also give away a lot about us, and you don't need to be a psychologist to understand them. All the details about ourselves add up to what we show to others as "us", influencing their opinion about us.
ReplyDeleteEvgenia Markova ACS
Just like Nina, “my behavior changes depending on the people I'm with”. For example these people might think, act, and dress different from me. So my dependence towards them automatically changes, I try to be more considerate with them so that I can find some similarities between us to talk about. A lot of my friends say they love my outgoingness, someone even asked me before "have you ever thought about being a physiologist", the answer is "not really" it’s just something that comes naturally. I love talking and meeting new people, it makes me happy. My friends have also told me that I am a mediator that unconsciously I have been helping people to mend out their problems and not fight with one another. From watching me my friend have somehow realized this quality about me which I never knew before.
ReplyDeleteI don't think how to act in front of other people. I act like I feel acting. If i'm in a bad mood - I'm an waful person. When I'm in a good mood - I'm smiling at everyone. I believe that out there only very few people now my real indentity. My personality is difficult to "analyse". I think I'm shy when I meet with new people. I just don't feel comfort but I'm trying to lose it up. I try to help everyone - even my enemies. I have a good heart. This I know for sure. :)
ReplyDeleteI actually never though on how other people look at me. It must be awful- sometimes im acting very weird, and other times im not, it's like I have a different attitude towards everybody every day. One day I might be sad, other day I might be really friendly and talkative. I don't think that even I can analyse my perosnality, but I'm very shy and helpful- that's for sure. Other than that, I'm just emotional and I seem to act different in same situations- it is really strange!
ReplyDeleteIvaylo Danailov
I feel as though life itself is the process of figuring out what these things are. The seed of who you are is planted the moment you step through the doors of High School. This is where you meet all the people who will alter your life forever. I realize I have yet to discover my identity. Last week, rock was my favorite genre of music; I listened to it day in and day out. For nearly two years it was apart of who I was. Now after one weekend of listening to R&B, I got hooked. It grew on me: becoming my new favorite genre of music. I began to question myself who I was. Was the dream to be part of a band still there? I don't know what I give others; Maybe the illusion of being what you see.
ReplyDelete-Joel Rivera CCHS
Every single personal attitude or act shows the others what kind of a person you are. In my opinion, the first 7 year are really important to create your character, but there are factors that can change you completely and make you entirely different person that you have been. And you show who you are at any time - everything you do and every single reaction. I myself care maybe too much for everything, and it's easily seen from the others.
ReplyDeleteAni Miteva 10/3
This is the hardest discussion topic, really. The truth is that I can't see myself from a different, objective perspective, as most of the people, and that's why I have a wrong impression of myself. I'm feeling like the other people know my personality more than I do even though I'm myself 24/7. Clothes, for example, are not something constant, you don't wear the same style of clothes everyday, so they can't really be like the true image of a person. I like to wear different kinds of clothes according to my feelings, so I thing that the clothes show the attitude that you got up with. when I feel sleepy, I put on a sweetshirt and jeans, because I don't have the energy to lose 1 hour on trying new outfits. I express myself mostlty through my behavior, because I usually keep the other things for myself. My feelings are what show the other people who I am - a very sensitive person. Some don't understand me and think I'm a drama queen, but whatever I am who I FEEL I am.
ReplyDeleteVictoria Toncheva 10/7
Everything I do or say can act as an expression of my identity. Often listening to other people and almost never interrupting them shows that I am a good listener and also patient. When I attend dancing clubs at school it means that I am an artistic type of person and also like socializing with such people. We may not always realize that but anything connected to us talks about our pesonality, what kind of people we are and what things we like. Our identity shapes the way we live and the way we see the world.
ReplyDeleteSilvia Djambazka, ACS
It's hard to explain what I give because I never give any person the same thing. What I believe I offer is a change of pace. I treat everyone I know differently, each of them get a behavior from me that I feel they need in their life. For instance: If I were to know a friend who feels neglected at home I would give them hugs and attention during the day so they'd feel better. If someone needs a harsher approach then I give them that.
ReplyDeleteYou can not always show your identity - in spite of all the 'be yourself' talk, sometimes you have to express yourself accordingly to what people you are talking with. One's identity, including mine, is shown by the way of speaking, clothing, manner... But they depend on the circumstances - I talk in one way with classmates, in another with my parents, in a third on official occasions. The same goes for clothes I wear. So, my, and everybody's, behavior can not show the actual identity of a person, as behavior changes all the time in various situations, and identity does not change so quickly and so frequently.
ReplyDeleteAlexander Krastev, 10-3, ACS
I agree that everything you do and say is a part of your identity, a part of who you are. However, I don't think about what I do or say. I act in a way that makes me feel comfortable and in my opinion, it's probably the right thing to do. If a person wants to know me and my personality, I will allow them to, but I will not act differently so that I can make them know me. It is everybody's choice to decide what to do. I would do the same thing. If I want to learn about someone's personality I would try to, if they let me. Yes, we probably sometimes change parts of the way we act, but in general, the change is not crucial. It is minor and you are still the same person with the same character.
ReplyDeleteViara 10/3 ACS
Contrary to what most people would say, we can change our identity. Personality is not something that forms as a consequence of events, it's a sudden understanding of a situation. At least that definition works for me. That's because I change my mind really often. One day I might say something is completely true and correct, and then the next that's it's the biggest nonsence I've ever heard. Maybe this is happenning, because I'm in the process of growing and finding what I truly believe in and who I am, but for now I act mostly led by emotions and mood.
ReplyDeleteLora S. 10/3 ACS
I don't think that one can change his identity. That's why it is called "identity" - because it shows who you are. I can change my style, my mood, my attitude every minute if I feel like it, but there is always something constant that goes through all my phases of changing. And this little constant thing is what makes me ME...it's my identity.
ReplyDeleteI think that our behavior depends on the environment in which we are and the people we hang out with. In english we act more or less as our friends. Why, because we cant be friends with someone that does not have anything incommon with us. You rarely see a punk and a skinhead in the movies (not fighting or smth).Ok this example wasnt great but you get the idea. For example when I hang out with different people I act, talk and behave differently, because i know how they will react and etc. Furthermore I dont think that we can talk to all people at the same way. Bobby 10/7 ACS
ReplyDeleteThough I noticed that for most of the people it's true that their behavior depends on the people they are with, for me, my current mood is a most important factor. If I am in a nice mood, no matter whom I am with, I will always do my best to make him/her happy, or to make fun of things, even if it's the most terrible day in Earth's history. On the other side, if I am angry, or sad, no matter whom I am with, I will not act adequately, as usual. Yet, I still have different attitude towards different people, regarding their character and interests. For example, I can't talk about guitar stuff to people that listen Bulgarian chalga music and have never played any instrument, and I can't talk to a swimmer about the latest soccer games in the Champions League. It is normal for one to change slightly his/her attitude, depending on the environment.
ReplyDeleteIvoslav Ganchev, ACS
Clothes don't tend to express one's personality simply because people change their style quite often. Type of behaviour doesn't talk to much about a person because the mood one is in can leave a great or a horrible impression on a new friend.
ReplyDeleteI believe the best way to express my personality is to show my friends. An old saying claims that who you are is who your friends are. That is why if I were to meet someone new, I'd make him see my friends too. The combination of their styles, of their behaviour and view points would be the mixture of mine. My identity is not expressed by my family, but rather from my friends and the choices that I make. It is not important who you are but who you want to be. I choose certain people to be my closest and those people express who I am.
Your behaviour expresses your personality.
ReplyDeleteMy behaviour varies according to the people I'm with. After all you can't behave in the way you behave when you are on a party with your friends, when you are with your grandparents. I think that the things I like express my identity best. Also my friends express my identity. The clothes that I wear and the music I like to listen to express my identity as well.